Sex Tourism and Social Media: Who Needs Ashley Madison?

Soi Cowboy in Bangkok

Soi Cowboy in Bangkok

Everybody’s heard of sex tourism, generally cast in a negative light as ‘trafficking’, ‘pedophilia’, or more generally as simple exploitation, generally in connection with such popular travel destinations as Thailand and the Philippines in Asia; Colombia and Costa Rica in Latin America; the Dominican Republic and Cuba in the Caribbean; and even Spain and good ol’ Amsterdam in Europe…

Think what you will, but most of what you’ll see there is simply none of the above, and says more about ourselves than them. We lecture the rest of the world on prostitution, while we promote promiscuity as the more modern alternative, and far more politically correct. Ironically we’ll even glorify prostitution if it happens to be transgender, or middle-aged, or unionized—see “Whores’ Glory”—just as long as it’s not cute little girls in Third World countries who need the money to support their families…

One Night in Bangkok

One Night in Bangkok

I have personally interviewed, also called ‘chatting’ up, over a mugga’ sumpn’, dozens if not hundreds of bar-girls in Thailand, in the Thai language, both prostitute and not, and the only time I ever saw trafficking was when I went out looking for it—for research—most of them Burmese, Cambodian, Laotian or a hill-tribe combination of the above, the degree of freedom varying…

I never saw anyone chained to a bed, but I saw some girls that looked like they hadn’t seen the sun in a while, maybe could use a little air, kinda’ like milk-fed veal. A ‘normal’ tourist wouldn’t even get into most of those places if they wanted to—locals only—and sad, yes, but the exception, not the rule.

If anything good has come out of the recent mass trafficking of South Asians and Syrians and Libyans, etc, it’s proof that there is more to trafficking than bar-girls and prostitution, so the misguided matriarchs of modernity might need another cause celebre rather than trying to control the vaginas of the Third World when they can’t even control their own, as if a wedding ring were not merely bride price in another form…

That's Entertainment: Bangkok Style

That’s Entertainment: Bangkok Style

Now courts in Uganda say that after a divorce brides don’t have to repay the bride price, so that’s a real game-changer: no more bride-price, i.e. marriages based on equality, hopefully. Other recent developments threaten the old status quo even further. Everyone’s heard of Ashley Madison by now, but have you heard about Miss Travel?

Miss Travel has made the rounds of travel columns and shows recently, assuring us that this is strictly buddy-buddy and above-board, with disclaimer proudly posted on the website ‘Escorts are not Welcome.’ But: you know. Notice they didn’t use the word ‘tolerated’. ‘Elite Travel Girls’ makes no such concessions to good taste and legality, blatantly advertising their ‘professional companions’. Now you don’t have to travel for sex. You simply travel with it/them.

In all fairness, there are probably all shades of gray here (pun) and I’ve even found one website that looks like genuine ‘guide-surfing’: Asian Travel Mates, in which local guides, all good-looking it’s true, will show you around ‘her city’, presumably for a tip, or possibly a leg-up on the foreigner dating scene, most simply wanting to practice their English, or so they say. If I were single, I can’t say but what I might try something like this, for local translations, if nothing else, especially since I’ve previously encountered such situations ‘on-the-fly’ (no pun) in previous eras of my life and travels—good fun.

Lookin' for candy in Bangkok...

Lookin’ for candy in Bangkok…

To summarize: on the one hand ‘sex tourism’ may be trashy and in bad taste, and not something I’d want my daughter to do, but not necessarily immoral or criminal. On the other hand, social media is apparently exempt, another niche which apparently doesn’t bother the do-gooders, maybe since the dark alleys of the Internet don’t disgust as do the dark alleys of Pattaya or Tijuana, or maybe since… the sums are so high. Dinero habla.

For my part I have no great problem with prostitution, anyway, as long as it’s sanitary and done with free will, better in brothels than mixed with alcohol in bars. Nights can be long—and lonely. It’s even estimated now that some 600,000 women worldwide travel to have ‘romance’ with beach boys (not the group) around the world, and that’s probably an under-estimate, given the self-reporting on something most women would never consider prostitution. Put that in your pipe, and make your own judgment, or not…

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http://www.elitetravelgirls.com/

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